‘This felt like a huge red flag for me’: 27-year-old woman's commitment-fearing boyfriend freaks out after being her +1 at a wedding, she breaks it off when he inappropriately ruins the night

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  • AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend after he did something weird at my best friend's wedding?
  • So, this is a bit of a mess, and I'm honestly torn about whether I did the right thing. Here's the situation: I (27F) have been with my boyfriend, Mark (29M), for about three years. We've had our ups
  • and downs, but I thought we were in a really good place. Recently, my best friend, Rachel (28F), got married, and I was her maid of honor. It was a huge deal for her, and I was super excited to be by her side.
  • The wedding was beautiful, everything went smoothly, and Mark was with me as my plus-one. We were having a great time dancing, laughing, just enjoying the night.
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  • But then, during the reception, Mark did something completely unexpected. So, Rachel and her new husband were dancing their first dance, and Mark was acting kind of off, which I chalked up to
  • him just being nervous. Then, out of nowhere, he pulls me aside and says he wants to "talk" to me privately. We step out to a quieter area, and
  • he's suddenly telling me that he doesn't feel "ready for this kind of commitment." Like, we've been talking about getting engaged for a while, and I was under the impression we were on the same
  • page, but now he's telling me that he doesn't think he's ready for marriage right there, at my best friend's wedding. I try to stay calm and ask him what he's talking about, and he says it's
  • not just about me, but that he's not sure about the whole "forever" thing. He's just "having doubts" in general. This was coming out of nowhere, and I was shocked.
  • I told him I needed some space and walked back inside to be with my friends. I honestly just felt embarrassed at that point. It wasn't the right time or place for
  • that conversation, and it really put a damper on the night. Later on, I tried to talk to him about it again, but he kind of just brushed it off, saying it wasn't a big deal and that he'd "sort himself out."
  • Long story short, after thinking about it for a few days, I ended things with him. I told him that if he wasn't sure about us, I couldn't keep putting myself in a situation where I'm always uncertain of where we stand.
  • Now, some of my friends are telling me I overreacted, that maybe he just got caught up in the moment or was feeling anxious about the future. But I don't know this felt like a huge red flag for me.
  • It wasn't just the timing, but the fact that he had doubts he didn't bring up until then. So, AITA for ending things after that?
  • thequiethunter NTA. He told you to your face... You are not his one person. Believe him and go to find someone that needs you as much as you need them.
  • Imchatterbox NTA. Obviously this was something he felt strongly about to pull you aside in the middle of a wedding like that. That would make anybody uncertain of a future with him.
  • Pretty_Belt3490 He did you a favor. You're entering an exciting time in your life, your 30s are going to be a blast. Now you can have a chance to find your
  • person. Relationships ALL have their ups and downs, but both people need to be working towards the same general goals. You're not. Your person is out there!
  • Ok-Nefariousness... Not over reacting. Why waste your time with someone who doesn't want a long-term commitment with you. You did the right thing.
  • Competitive_key_... He panicked when he was at an actual wedding for your friend. So he imbibed plenty of liquid courage and told you the truth. In vino veritas. You did you both a favor by ending it.

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